#UseYourAnd# And write what ?!? I
was not clear. I continued to surf other pages of the web. At night “Mom what's for dinner?”
I shouted. “DOSAA”, came a prompt reply from kitchen! “Ahh this dosa and sambar again huh”
I started to growl and before I could let it out, I heard “and
chutney!”
For the love of white chutney I felt elated, let out a sigh and kissed my mom.
BANG!!! Rang the bell on my mind 'When an AND clause could add so much spice to
my mood I can't stop thinking of how ANDs spices up one's life! And tada :) here I am!!
Every
woman's first inspiration would be her mom and I am no exception. The more a
girl turns into a woman, the more she realizes the importance of her mother. We
can't stop wondering how many kinds of roles she had to play! She is a caring
daughter in law of my grandmother and an ideal wife of my dad and mother of a dazzling
princess and a charming prince. Yeah it is me and my brother :D I know it’s
too dramatic but to my mom we are :)!
She
knows when to act as my sister and when to enjoy the girly moments as my BFF
and when to act as strict as MOM. She knows how to groom my brother into a man and
yet treat him as a little kid. It is not easy to be a
daughter's mom and a son's mom and yet she manages to be both. Most importantly
she nailed it completely! This is just inside our house.
To the outside
world she has more avatars to play. To win a degree of M.sc and M.Phil, in
those days one could easily guess how hard it would have been, for a woman to
travel from one corner of village to the other side of a city and how difficult
it would have been to gather the money needed for all the applications and
fees. She never told me how much she struggled during her days but I have heard
my uncle talking with pride in eyes about how dedicated and sincere she was and
I couldn’t help but notice that it’s her hard work that is reflecting as his pride.
she started her career as a higher secondary school
mathematics teacher, moved up the career ladder working as an assistant
professor and senior lecturer and went on to pursue her PhD. It was definitely
not a cake walk. I was in my twelfth, my brother in his tenth and she on the
verge of completing her PhD degree. She was operated not once but twice during
this period and yet gathered the stamina to sit in her hospital room and prepare
her papers for the degree. I was indeed moved by her determination. I learnt
what a true perseverance and commitment is. While fighting the hardships, she
never forgot to balance the other side, i.e., to be a dutiful daughter in law
and a wonderful wife. Not once she deferred from the duty of a mother. There
she was in kitchen to cook my favorite dish after her tiring 8 hours of work
and 4 hours of travel and then prepare for her next day’s class. Not once have I noticed her whining about her daily chores
or cribbing about working for more than 25 years.
Those endless commitments and tireless efforts had
resulted in her promotion as the head of institution- Yes, I am proud to call myself the daughter of
Dr. T.Revathi, the Principal of a College and
guilty for not helping her out in her arduous journey! Right from the time I
was in her womb to till date she had always been my warmth, my sunshine, a
shoulder to cry upon. I can go on and on writing about her but in nutshell she’s been a true source of inspiration for not just me but for every
batch of students who pass out under her guidance!
Mom you always
dreamed of me to be an IIT/NIT and IIM graduate and settle in a dream job. Today,
I am an electronics graduate, a software professional and a blogger and a
social worker and all these are because the freedom you gave me to live my life
my way. All your dreams about me had remained a dream till now :( I never lived up to your expectations and yet you never
complained once! Instead you loved me more than the day I was born and
encouraged me more and more to perform better and be the best in my field,
though I ridicule your new desire at this age to learn hindi :P . I take this
opportunity to Thank you Mom for allowing me to live my life my way! MOM ..you are WOW and I adore you!
AND so the post doesn’t end here….
In set language (A true Math professor's daughter :p ) A or B
always indicate the whole set, it’s A AND B that
distinguishes things from entire set.
The other beautiful woman I admire and idealize besides
my mom is none other than my neighbor Mrs. Shanthy Viswanathan. I had always
heard that, in an Indian society like ours, the next door aunties are always there
to brainwash our mom and influence our life, most often choose our career paths
and the college we must get admitted into! The first thing I like about her is
that she is not one among such stereotyped next door aunties!! Rather she is
like my best senior who I never had in my college. She is a homemaker at
present but had worked with Times of India, and The Hindu. She is the mother of
two teenagers and anyone seeing her would never believe it! Yes she is not just
young at heart but in appearance too. She might be a homemaker but she is up to
date with her technology. She posts articles in facebook, takes good selfies
and changes her whatsapp profile picture and status just like any tech dude!
Give her any topic I am sure she will have something to talk on it. Another
thing that I like about her is that she is always dressed up. Trust me compared
to her dressing sense, our generation has lot more to learn. And most important
of all, I like her enthusiasm to do things. Seeing her energy in aerobics class
I was dumbstruck. She is up at 4 in the morning and never sleeps in the
afternoon and climbs up and down the stairs thousands times a day and still
with vibrant energy. For a better picture I can relate it with a scene in film
Padayappa where Old Rajni fights villains and actor Abbas (Padayappa’s to be son-in–law in film) stunned with
his stunts comments that he is never old and watch the fight open-mouthed! Such
is her level of energy and I was totally awed by it. That scene might be reel
but her energy level is so real! She had told me lot of her real life experiences
where
Ø She was feared to death
inside and acted bold to tackle a grim situation in life
Ø She was afraid and yet dared
to take a risk in life
Ø She was about to burst in
anger and yet maintained her cool to avoid mishaps
All those really helped me mold
myself and made me a better decision maker. Recently when I enquired about the
swimming classes she was eager and readily accepted to accompany me. Salute to
her readiness to learn new things in life!
My Mom and Shanty Aunty , both have been successful in their own ways. Be it my mom learning a new
language at the time of retirement and Shanthy Aunty’s readiness to learn activities, both taught me a common lesson –A woman’s success can never be
stopped unless and until she decides to and the motivation to succeed always
come from within!
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